source: Emile Rafael
Tag: wow
I just recently started considering the fact that I’m a demigirl seriously (like, it’s been less than 24 hours since I finished googling) and I don’t know how to stop myself from thinking I’m making this up. I feel like a girl most of the time so why can’t I be content with that? everyone has days where they feel disconnected from their gender right? it’s not like I can ask anyone irl about this, so I feel like I’m making a big deal out of nothing, that I’m really a cisgirl trying to be special.
I’ve been in a similar position as you, anon. It’s not easy grappling with self-doubt.
Here are some points that helped me accept my demigender identity (not necessarily in order):
- It’s okay to question your identity.
- Gender is a spectrum (as I learned in my IB anthropology class). Not all people fit neatly into two boxes labelled ‘male’ and ‘female’.
- The term ‘demigender’ and its specific subsets were created to fill places on the gender spectrum.
- Even if you find out later that you’re cisgender, that doesn’t mean that you were wrong/invalid. What label you feel fits you the best, fits you right now.
- Labels are not compulsory. It is okay not to label yourself. It is okay if you don’t find a label that resonates with you.
- If you feel that demigender/demigirl fits you better than cisgender, then that might be a sign of you being demigender. That is up to you to decide.
- There are cis people who don’t feel particularly attached to their gender. This does not mean that demigender identity is not real. Although there are cis people who question their gender, many don’t. If you’re spending a lot of time grappling with your identity/don’t feel that your assigned gender at birth fits you completely, it could be another indicator that you might not be cis. Again, that’s only for you to decide.
I came to the conclusion that I’m demigender, because although calling me a girl is not incorrect, something feels a little off. After a long time of consideration, I’ve concluded that being demigender is part of who I am.
Hope this helps, anon!
Acing History
What is the idea behind Acing History?
Simply put: to blog about asexuality in history. I’m
passionate about history, and I am asexual. Clearly, I need to combine
these two.Aces are already researching and talking about asexuality in history. Whether that’s discussions on our community history (video), small tidbits which seem to describe something like asexual people in 17th century Versailles or Ancient Greece, or lists of possible “asexual” people in the past,
there is an interest in this subject. So, the need to understand our
historical context is clearly not just my own. However, the discussions
of asexuality in history are few and far in between, and most do not
rest on any theoretical framework on how to approach studying asexuality
in the past. I want to change this by documenting my own travels
through Ace history: my thoughts on theoretical issues as well as some
hands-on historical work. In addition, I want to collect things I’ve
found on the Ace-ternet and in the library and share it here through
masterposts and book reviews. Hopefully, that will give others starting
points and inspiration for their own reading journeys.Some things you can expect from me and this blog:
1) I will always list my sources – both academic and relating to
discourse in the asexual community. This way, readers can check where I
got my information and decide for themselves whether or not they think
those sources are credible.2) This blog tries to be as accessible as possible for everyone. Which means:
A. I’m trying to keep the language simple and understandable for the
lay reader, and explain the historical context as clearly as possible.B. Making the blog searchable through a coherent categorization of the posts.
C. Making the lay-out of this blog readable for people with disabilities.
D. Provide trigger warnings when necessary.
I’ve had “Waterfall” on loop for a while
here’s a link to a higher res
Rest stops on highways are liminal spaces where the veil is thin and nobody can tell me differently
Explain
The explanation is that liminal spaces are in between places that bridge Here with There, so in fairy tales we often have the Fairy Ring, the Forest Clearing, the Sudden Misty Foggy Forest, the Bridge, the River, graveyards, in some cases
We also have a ton of american urban mythology around famous roadways and sites off the sides of roads
Archetypes like these occur to mark the places in the world where the veil goes thin and humans can have extra-worldly experiences, out of the ordinary way of living
So why wouldn’t transient spaces like rest stops where everyone is just passing through from one place to the next, never stopping for too long, not be a liminal space where spirits frequent, too
Especially since nobody would know if they were real or not
Ok but this speaks to me
I always feel like something isn’t quite right at rest stops
I once slept though three gas stations on a road trip, and the second the car started to slow to turn into a rest stop, I was basically wide awake.
My mom and I were on I-90 in a blizzard once and pulled off at the first exit we could find. Turns out that if we’d gone even a mile further, we would have happened on a 49-and-counting car pileup, and that 90 was closed for MILES. How we found an unblocked ramp was a matter of great debate, but where this gets weirder still is that at the bottom of the ramp was a closed truck stop and an open church full of teenagers–they went for youth group, the blizzard started, and they were stuck until the snow stopped. They fed us leftovers from their potluck dinner, prayed with us for safe travel, and when the snow let up they saw us on our way.
Three days later–Sunday–we were traveling back and decided to stop at that church to thank them. We found it thanks to the truck stop, but this time it was the truck stop that was open and the church that was closed. Neither of us remembered it looking so decrepit on the trip down, and granted we saw it first at night in a snowstorm, but you’d think we’d have noticed the boarded-up windows. So we asked in at the truck stop.
The church had been abandoned for ten years. And yet I still had one of their youth group programs under my sun visor, very clearly labeled for the previous week.
To this day I’m sure we crossed dimensions somewhere on I-90, and that’s how we stayed safe. You could tell me it’s because the truck stop was a liminal space and I’d 100% believe you.
I don’t mind when this post goes around again because sometimes I get stories like this
Abandoned – The Castle of Dona Chica, Palmeira – Braga, Portugal
Photos: Ruin’arte
















